hustlerose:

stop asking people’s pronouns. real life isnt the internet. asking someone’s pronouns in real life with people around is fucking degrading. we all know you wouldnt ask a cis person’s pronouns. when you ask, a trans person hears “i’m not sure if you’re actually the gender you’re presenting as. do you mind if i embarrass you and get really invasive on a personal level?” not to mention you might out the person youre asking to whoever else is around.

if youre really fucking lost, ask their name, or just guess by by how they present. the worst that can happen is you get corrected and you can be respectful about it. these are basic social conventions that should be left unsaid.

in conclusion, trans people are regular people and you should treat us normally. thanks for coming to my ted talk.